I care about my girlfriend, but I’m worried about discouraging her
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I care about my girlfriend, but I’m worried about discouraging her

Dear Ania: My “Laura” is the light of my life. It’s been over a year since we found each other, but my whole body still trembles with anticipation every time I see her. Lately, however, I can’t help but feel the tension between us growing. This is my first real romantic relationship and I know I have a lot to learn, but Laura can be very critical of me. For example, he tells me that I use my tongue too much when we kiss. And one night, when I tried to cuddle, she insisted that I go to sleep on the couch instead.

As soon as she comes home from work, I can’t stop talking to her. I found myself following her around the house. I know he likes to rest in silence for a while. But I’m so happy to see her that I always forget about it! One day she went so far as to hold my tongue. Then she said, “Baby, shut up.” He made me feel so small.

I don’t want to push my love away with my enthusiasm. But I also can’t help being myself. It’s true that I am young and inexperienced. So maybe I’m too eager. But I just can’t hide what I feel. And I think I’m afraid that Laura will be discouraged by my puppy love. Please help me. What should I do? — Simply enchanted

Dear Simply: There is love and then there is infatuation. Your letter speaks more to the latter. For real love to develop between you and Laura, you need to give her space and time for it.

To help you reduce obsessive thinking, I encourage you to attend therapy and read “The End of Codependency” by Melody Beattie. Develop your hobby; spend more time with friends; find a job that excites you. Investing energy in yourself will not only increase your self-esteem, but it will also make you more attractive to your girlfriend – which will benefit both parties.

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